Here is a SPECIAL Christmas Repost of an old PET PEEVES!
Comments as always are welcome and uncensored!
Married Daddy Slaves
Merry Christmas to all of the Domme Dose readers. I hope you all have a wonderful Holiday and enjoy yourself. Subs and slaves make sure to be extra good to your Domme today or it’s coal for you.
All year round we’re selfish and greedy and entitled, because that’s who we are, and what we deserve to be. What about now in the Holiday season? Where do you draw the line with taking cash from a father & or husband? Slaves, how do you deal with trying to be extra-generous this time of year and also fulfilling your fatherly and husbandly obligations?
A lot of girls say ‘it’s Christmas for me ALL year’ and that is true to an extent but what fun would it be if you didn’t have a reason to look foward to this month like the rest of the world does? There is nothing wrong with expecting more from slaves this time of year and enjoying it the way you deserve. What about the moral issue of asking/demanding your slave to neglect the other people in his life though?
Do you REALLY neglect them for your Domme or do you just lie and say you’re doing that to make her happy? Do you REALLY think that your slave should give it all up for you, even the money he was going to use on his kids? How do you justify it if you do believe that? Do you not even care to justify it and just want what you want and don’t care who suffers? Or do you think that it’s HIS problem, he has a choice and if he really cared about his family he wouldn’t be here in the first place, so it’s not really your problem to begin with?
I’m just curious how you go about this. I’ve always wondered how other women feel about this and how other women feel about married slave/subs. Myself I really don’t like to know I’m taking food/gifts from innocent children because of my desire to be spoiled and his desire to lose control. I don’t like knowing that they have to suffer for HIS fetish. I will still drain him when I know there is more money to be had, regardless how much I dislike what his weakness does for his family life, I won’t let that stop me from enjoying myself with his cash.
I think there is a huge moral issue and most people ignore it, or they just fake suffering/sacrificing it all. I think most slaves have money set aside for their Domme and just pretend to go broke so they can give to their family like they are expected to. All year round there is the moral issue of having a married man involved on a sexual level with you and for some women on an emotional level but especially now in the Holiday Season. Who decides what the line is and can you really live with yourself knowing that his kids are suffering, or do you take no responsibility for his actions or situation?
Also I’d like to know if you’ve been contacted by a wife how you dealt with it and did you think it was really your slave pretending to be her? Last Christmas I had a slave’s wife contact me and ask why her husband had sent me $600 the day before on paypal, which was Christmas day. I thought I’d feel bad, but I didn’t. I was mostly concerned she’d get MY money back from me, which she didn’t.
for christmas I sent out a humiliation assignment which ordered my slaves to budget what they intend to spend on their wife or girlfriend for Xmas, then send me half. I told them to think of me when they see the look of utter disappointment and heartache on her face come Xmas morning. My only regret is I neglected to mention the children. I would have demanded at least 85%.
My opinion is…
1. It is none of my business or my problem whether he is married or has kids.
2. He is a grown-ass man and has big boy pants enough to make the decision to spend, then he can make the decision not to.
No, I don’t want children or wives to suffer but ultimately, the responsibility of the wives and family being taken care of is his.
I have had 1 married slave for about 10 years now, I always get more than the wife, I deserve MORE I have to put up with his stupid ass nonsense all the time, when I do that is! it is his responsibility to take care of his wife and kids and grandkids, not Mine!
If Princess Ceara demanded 85% from me i think my kids would go without presents. She is that perfect and impossible to deny. Which is why i probably will never get the courage to contact Her.
>In the end the responsibility falls onto the the sub. He knew he was married and had kids when he reached out to a domme. So really, the domme doesn’t have to take the family into consideration. Now, i am not married nor have any kids and have always said i couldn’t do what i do if i were. But, it is certain the man isn’t happy with his marriage if he had to go outside the relationship to get his kinks. Maybe he should have married someone more in tune to what he likes. But, that is another story to itself. But, no way should the domme care whether he has a wife or kids. After all he is a grown man and knew what he was doing. So if the domme chooses not to care that is up to Her. i know some that do and work with the sub and others that will take whatever they want and don’t care one bit. So sorry, can’t feel sorry for that sub. In the end, they knew what they were doing and it is not the fault of the domme for taking all they can.
if you dont snoop through your boyfriend/husband’s shit enough to know he’s a damn freak with a weakness for abuse and paying Dommes then you deserve a shitty ass christmas gift LOL…as for the kids-sucks to be them but its probably good to learn early on and grow up knowing that you dont always get what you want and life is one big disappointment-that is of course, unless you are a hot, dominant woman
Leah, hang on. So your saying people SHOULD snoop on their significant other? Or should there be an unspoken bond of trust and privacy in a relationship?
HAHAHA!! Im saying the best way to get to know someone is to snoop through their shit! The challenge is finding a way to start a fight about what you’ve found without letting on about the source of your disgust! LOL!!!
When any man makes the decision to cheat on his wife/girlfriend, he is responsible for his own actions. End of story.
Yes, even in the case of Findom, he is cheating! Subs practically lust after us, sit at their computers jerking off wishing they had the chance to fuck us. The thought is just as good as the deed.
If a domme cared about that shit she wouldn’t be a domme.
This reminds me of arguments many spouses make to Casino’s. That somehow they are suppose to know when to cut off how much a person gambles. Pull them aside and say, are you sure this will fit into your budget? Don’t you have a wife/husband and kids to think about? With findom or gambling a line has to be set by the gambler/sub. Also, like both there are many wanna be card sharks and subs waiting line to be the next loser. =P
Love the gambling addiction analogy. I have always compared FinDom and such online to a gambling addiction
it’s like a sex and gambling addiction in one though.
I agree with the comments here. The sub is responsible for his own actions, how much he sends is entirely up to him! The Domme can demand $500 but if he only has $500 then he has the choice to either sign off, close the window, etc. or send less. It’s not like we are holding a gun to his head. And I know this will be said, so in the case of a blackmail play, he asked for it, he gave the info or whatever, so his fault. Play with fire, you will get burned
Why are we supposed to care about this more than any big box store or business?
Just say no to being his mother.
Heh, this is quite ridiculous – the number of people skirting responsibility!
If the “sub” was man enough to say no to the “domme”, would he even be a “sub”? (btw, I use quotes around “domme” and “sub” because the roles and/or sexes can be interchangable)
Instead of the gambler analogy… how about the car analogy?
“Dommes” drive the relationship, “subs” ride along. By their very nature, “subs” do what their “dommes” say; if their “domme” says pay 85%, they pay 85%. If the “sub” could say “no”, they wouldn’t be a sub, would they?
The fact that so many people (particularly “dommes”) say that “dommes” have no responsibility disgusts me. There’s a saying, which probably isn’t heard much ’round these parts due to the nature of the content… “be a man and accept responsibility for your actions”. I guess, by many of the responses, that accepting responsibility is only something a man can do?
Look, I’m not saying that the “subs” aren’t responsible for their actions… they ultimately are. However, I *AM* saying that the “dommes” are ALSO responsible. You can try and justify it any way you want… the classic “if it wasn’t me, it’d be someone else” defense that drug dealers use to justify selling drugs to children.. but the fact remains, if a “domme” knowingly orders a married “sub”/father to pay x% at the expense of his family… then they are just culpable if not more so than the sub. Period, point blank. There’s no getting around this fact.
In the interest of full disclosure .. I am a proud man, and I enjoy coming here for a couple of reasons…
One, I think this site helps me keep it real, and not in the way you might think offhand. Look, I’ve had just about every fantasy imaginable, and every fetish from dominating to being dominated and everything inbetween. Maybe I’m a switch, but I like to describe my personality as the “Polar Opposite” personality. I tend to try & submit to those that are weak, and tend to try & dominate those who are strong. I’m very contrary I guess. Anyway, when I first saw this site, I was drawn in by the fantasy of everything.. yet, as the days became weeks, and weeks became months… I realized, there’s some really fucked up shit going on here (from a drama standpoint), and in a way, I found it comforting, that even at our most perverse, we’re all still human beings, all capable of making mistakes or pissing off our neighbors or whatever.
Two, I get a laugh of all the losers that get raped here. Personally, I’m not into the financial domination scene as a sexual outlet… I’m into it for the entertainment value. I keep a nice stash of popcorn at the ready, especially when Veronica DeVille posts something… waiting for Ceara Lynch to respond